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There’s no doubt that Julia Roberts and her husband, Daniel Moder, are a match made in heaven. Alas, things weren’t always this easy. From becoming a mistress to admitting that "mastering this mothering thing" doesn’t exist, find out everything you need to know about this ‘pretty woman.’
Roberts is originally from Smyrna, Georgia. She came from a family of actors. Both of her parents, Betty Lou Bredemas, her mother, and father, Walter Grady Roberts were exemplary actors. Her parents decided to teach their youngsters everything they needed to know about acting.
After Julia was born, her mother quit her job. This affected their financial life negatively. At the age of five, Julia's parents decided to divorce, and this made her brother, Eric, move to Atlanta with her dad. Julia's first acting gig was given to her by Eric Roberts, in a movie titled 'Blood Red.'
She went on to play an essential role in another movie titled 'Satisfaction,' and things just got better from there. In 1989, Julia Roberts starred in a cult-classic film titled 'Pretty Woman,' by Harry Marshall - this was her big break.
Like many famous actresses, Julia Roberts has had her fair share of romantic relationships with prominent figures in the world. Some of them include Kiefer Sutherland, Mathew Perry, Dylan McDermott, Liam Neeson, and Jason Patric. She was engaged to Sutherland for a short while.
Then, in a drastic shock, the duo decided to break up - a mere three days before their wedding. This affected the actress and her family, but she found love again. This time it was with Lyle Lovett. The couple decided to tie the knot on June 25, 1993.
Two years later, the couple filed for divorce. In 1998, it was confirmed that Roberts was romantically involved with Benjamin Bratt. But, in 2001, the lovers broke up. In 2000, while she was still engaged with Bratt, Roberts met Daniel Moder.
Moder was married to Vera Steinberg at the time. Moder filed for a divorce from his wife one year later and got married to Roberts on July 4, 2002. This marriage was judged by many, as was Julia for her long list of ex-husbands. Despite this, the couple has three beautiful children together.
Moder is Julia Roberts' loving husband and doting father of her three beautiful kids. Aside from being a father and husband, he is a cinematographer and operates on camera as well. He was born in Los Angeles, and his career began in Hollywood as a production assistant.
He was in charge of camera operation for 'Spider-Man 3,' 'Mr. and Mrs. Smith' and 'Point Break.' He also worked as a cinematographer for movies like 'Animal Kingdom,' 'The Normal Heart,' and 'Ibiza.' He met Julia Roberts in 2000 on set for a movie titled 'The Mexican,' and the duo became great friends until 2002, which is when they got married.
However, the pair only got married two years later on July 4, after Danny divorced from his wife. Going about it unconventionally, their wedding guests had no idea they were about to attend a wedding. Held at Julia's 82-acre ranch in Taos, New Mexico, the guests thought they were attending an Independence Day party.
That is, until Julia and Danny stepped into a circle of pink, red, and white rose petals under an arch constructed of pink and white sheaths, soon followed by a proposal from Danny. The wedding ceremony followed soon after, and the guests danced under the stars to Bob Marley and Sade until well after 2 AM.
The newlyweds held their reception and a Fourth of July barbecue the next day. Just over a year later, Julia had an interview with Oprah's O Magazine in May 2003 and explained how being married to Danny transformed her life.
The actress said: "I think it's not so much that I'm happier now than ever; it's that I'm more content. I'm in the harbor of my life, a huge part of it is my marriage. My husband, Danny, has really shined the light for me."
"Because of being married, I've met people and experienced all these little things that have nurtured my life—not so much changed it, just nurtured it in a way that's astounding."
The couple welcomed twins Phinnaeus "Finn" and Hazel in November 2004, followed by the birth of their third child and son, Henry Daniel in June 2007. Although Danny and Julia keep their family life private, the kids travel all over the world with them while working.
When Julia went to India for the filming of "Eat, Pray, Love" released in 2010, the tots went along! They couldn't wait to go back after visiting the country with Danny a few months earlier:
“So, we had been in Jaipur and Agra and all these places, Goa. We were all over the entire country. They loved it. So, when I said we were going back, they were so excited. We went to all the places we hadn’t been before,” Julia said on "The Today Show."
With the kids getting older, the fact that their mother is a famous award-winning actress is starting to take hold, even though Julia doesn't think it will ever happen:
"When they were starting to figure it out, it was like, 'You’re famous?' And I said, 'I think a lot of people might have seen the movie that I’m in or might know who I am.' Maybe an hour goes by. 'Are you more famous than Taylor Swift?'" Julia said.
The actress does admit that tabloid gossip gets to her even after all these years. It has also led to some "uncomfortable" situations while standing in a grocery store line, with some new gossip story about her life printed on the cover of magazines:
"It can still hurt my feelings because I’m so proud of my marriage. We just celebrated being married for 16 years this Fourth of July, and there’s so much happiness wrapped up in what we’ve found together," Julia told Oprah.
"What I like is when they write, 'the $150 million divorce,' and then a week later a different tabloid says, 'the $275 million divorce.' I’m like, 'Well, somebody got a paycheck in the last week. This is getting good.'”
Raising children in a different world than what she grew up in, Julia realized she has no idea what it's like being a teenager in this day and age:
"Sometimes my kids ask me things, and I just say to them, “I’m going to say no, and I’m going to look into it because I don’t even know what we’re talking about,” she added.
She might not always know what they are talking about, but the kids have talked Julia into joining Instagram in June 2018. While it would seem that Julia has mastered balancing acting between her family and career, she would have you know that "mastering this mothering thing" doesn't exist.
"I think, as women, we fall into this place where we feel like it’s our responsibility to give everything, give and give and give," Julia explained.
"There’s nothing wrong with saying to your spouse or your child or your friend, “Can I get a hand? I need somebody else in here helping me do this because I can’t do it by myself. Or I don’t want to do it by myself!”
On Mother's day in 2019, Danny shared a rare family photo on Instagram with the caption, "That pretty mama in the middle. We love you so much." Julia gathered a following 6.7m strong since joining Instagram, and mainly posts work-related pictures with a good shot of golden oldie pictures in between.
For most women, the early days of motherhood are challenging. However, for Roberts, her struggle was on a higher level. Not only did she have to be there for her kids, but she also had to make sure her career didn't come to an end.
It was double the work for the actress and sometimes overwhelming. Nevertheless, Roberts never tried to present the front of a woman who has it all. She often got real about the hard times saying:
"Nobody's there with you at 3:00 in the morning when you're just going, 'What am I doing? Where did they come from, and when are they going?' You get through it, and you figure it out. Everybody does, and it's a trial and error and a whole lot of tears."
With the fame, success, and wealth attained, one would expect Julia to go quite easy on her kids and spoil them with the best nannies, butler and the rest. Fortunately, the reverse is the case... Roberts is all for raising her kids as independent beings.
Sure, she doesn't want them to have some of the struggles she had, but that doesn't mean she would leave them without essential life skills. In her words: "I don't want them to have some of the struggles that I had."
"But at the same time, you do need to know how to make your bed and do your laundry and make one meal. These are important life skills. They have to run their own race. They have to have their own experience."
One hurdle parents battle with frequently is how to inform their kids about everything going on in the news. On one hand, you'd want them to stay informed. But on the other, you're trying to preserve their innocence and shield them from all the negativity happening in the world.
So, what to do? For Julia, talking to her kids about the news is the best method for her as she wants them to help them believe that they have a voice that can be heard.
"This is the time you have to rise as a community and as a household and as a country and try to make voices be heard. And that's what I have to instill in my children, who are certainly old enough to be aware of politics and things going on in the world.
It's very important for my husband and me to be honest with them and help them feel like they still have a voice for the things that they believe in."
To many of us, Julia Roberts is a phenomenal actress with remarkable talent and extraordinary beauty. But to her kids, she is just mom. Despite all the fuss and paparazzi chase whenever they are out for regular family time, Roberts' kids can't seem to get to terms with their mom being a superstar. She once recalled:
"I don't think they will ever have a true sense of that. I think I told you once when they were starting to figure it out, it was like, 'You're famous?' And I said, 'I think a lot of people might have seen the movie that I'm in or might know who I am.'
Of course, marriages can't be perfect because the people involved in them aren't perfect either. Just like any other living marriage that comes with its ups and downs, Daniel Moder and Julia Roberts have been through a few hiccups in their marriage. One of the main issues between the couple is their difference in careers.
A good friend of the couple once disclosed that Moder often feels like he is in his wife's shadow. At one point in time, Roberts was extremely unimpressed with the lifestyle her husband followed, as he would constantly go on expensive vacations with friends. It was difficult for them because she always had to go about shooting movies.
To fix this problem, the actress organized a family vacation to Fiji, where she mentioned that they were hoping to heal and resolve their issues. According to her, the location was a happy place for both of them to work things out - and we're glad they did!
Julia Roberts' life and career have evolved over the years, and in the process, she has transformed the Hollywood scene. What is your favorite Julia Roberts movie? Share your thoughts in the comments!